A couple of souls have shared with me the pain of losing their loved ones in the last few days, and I felt called to offer this reflection. It is quite painful when we lose our loved ones, and it is important to understand a few things that can protect us from unknowingly harming ourselves and the one who has departed for a new birth.
Even though physically that being may not be with us, but the energetic communication still happens, soul to soul. This communication is happening via feelings and vibrations. Now, if we create pain being in the memories of that soul, that soul receives the energy of pain from us. There would be a certain pull that soul would experience and would experience suffering where ever that soul is now. If in a previous lifetime loved ones were deeply attached and continued to hold on with intense pain or longing after the soul departed, those vibrations could, in some cases, influence the soul as it takes its new birth.
This can show up as:
- Unexplained restlessness or crying in infants (without a clear physical cause).
- Carrying subtle emotional heaviness without obvious reason.
If we can use the same memories that create pain, to create gratitude for the time they were with us, then we will share the vibrations of gratitude towards that soul. It is important for one to come to terms and into a state of acceptance of what is. Yes, there would be missing, and even that missing is to be accepted. Not to suppress grieving, but to be at peace with what we are feeling without resistance. To meet our feelings with acceptance and compassion. If tears arise, we allow them, embracing even that as part of healing.
We can also send a lot of blessings, loving and peaceful thoughts and good wishes consciously for the soul’s next journey which will help that soul to integrate easily into its new life without feeling any burden of any emotional pull and lighten their new journey. If there is something unresolved, where forgiveness is pending, we can forgive ourselves and the departed soul. If we feel the need to seek forgiveness, we can do so with a sincere heart. Such feelings always reach the other soul. Let there be no regrets. When we are compassionate with ourselves in this way, we are also compassionate towards the departed soul.
Meditation, prayer, journaling, and reflecting on the nature of the Self can all support us in grieving. The departure of a loved one can also become a doorway to contemplate impermanence and, in doing so, help us live more meaningfully in the present moment.
The truth is that we all come into each other’s lives based on a karmic account we have with the other. Once that karmic account is resolved, the soul parts and moves onto its next destination. There is no death, the self is deathless, it simply moves on from one form to another playing its part/role in this world.
May we all find peace in acceptance, gratitude in our memories, and love in our hearts for ourselves, and for those who have moved ahead on their journey.
Every ending is also a new beginning…
Lots of love and light…
